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Pastor's Wife Pens Heartbreaking Public Message After His Suicide: 'These Are the Words I Would Say to Him'

08-29-2018
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PASTOR SUICIDE
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Inland Hills Church in California lost its lead pastor Andrew Stoecklein Saturday after he took his own life. 

His wife, Kayla, shared the devastating loss on Instagram saying her husband struggled with depression and anxiety. 

In a recent post, Kayla shares a letter to her husband she wrote on their shared blog "God's Got This." Their blog was originally started by Pastor Andrew when his dad was battling leukemia.

Kayla wrote on Instagram, "We clinged to the phrase 'God's Got This.' It was Andrew's idea to create a blog so that people could follow along the journey."

She continued, "This morning I wrote a post to my husband if he was here these are the words I would say to him."

 

While Andrew's dad was battling leukemia we clinged to the phrase "God's Got This." • It was Andrew's idea to create a blog so that people could follow along the journey. Andrew was incredibly passionate about the phrase "God's Got This." • We have sent hundreds of thousands of wristbands all over the world with those precious words embedded on it. • Our family is still holding tight to that phrase even now. We are choosing to believe that "God's Got This." We don't understand it, we hate it, it makes us angry, we can't even breathe, but we are trusting God. • This morning I wrote a post to my husband, if he was here these are the words I would say to him. • Andrew, we will keep "God's Got This" alive in your name. #godsgotthis (Link in Bio)

A post shared by Kayla Stoecklein (@kaylasteck) on

In the heartbreaking tribute, Kayla shares her pain, shock and how devastating the journey through her husband's depression was. 

She writes, "You were right all along, I truly didn't understand the depths of your depression and anxiety. I didn't understand how real and how relentless the spiritual attacks were. The pain, the fear, and the turmoil you must have been dealing with every single day is unimaginable."

"The enemy knew what an amazing man you were. The enemy knew God had huge plans for your life. The enemy saw how God was using your gifts, abilities, and unique teaching style to reach thousands of lives for Him. The enemy hated it and he pursued you incessantly. Taunting you and torturing you in ways that you were unable to express to anyone," she said.

Kayla goes on to apologize to her husband for the time he spent suffering in silence and expresses how she wishes he were still here so she could pray over him and comfort him.

She writes, "Until we meet again I will cling to my Father in heaven. He will carry me through every second, every minute, every hour of every day. I read a verse this morning and I know God is reminding me that even now, in the midst of my deepest pain that He has got this."

Pastor Andrew's suicide is bringing attention to all the pressure on men and women in ministry.

CBN News had a chance to speak with Fernando Garzon, a clinical psychologist, and professor with Regent University, to talk about the tragic situation and the realities facing pastors.

"Pastors have a real challenge in a sense that they give so much to so many people and many times the standard of behavior and conduct for pastors is so much higher that they feel isolated," Garzon said. "Who does a pastor go to when they want to talk about different situations? Who does a pastor share his heart with?"

He continued, "It is really the loneliness, the isolation that can happen in the ministry is something important for all churches to be aware of."

Professor Garzon said that churches and the community can be helpful to pastors by giving them a place and opportunity to "fill up" and receive encouragement.

"Allow the pastor to have a set of people that the pastor can really unload his heart to and share his burdens with," he said. "And just let the pastor know that you care for him. Pastors are always giving - they need that encouragement."

He continued, "Give them vacations, support their families, give them time with their families and alone time. They need a space to be themselves and to refresh and restore."

Pastor Andrew left behind his wife and their three young children. The family asks for prayers during this difficult time.

If you or someone you know is struggling with depression or thoughts of suicide, reach out to your local church or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

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