- Well, Wendy Griffith,

we are so happy to have you be a part

of our unhooked, wholly ina hookup world campaign.

Seriously, thank you somuch for being here with us.

- Oh, it's my pleasure.

I'm excited about this actually.

Thanks for having me.

- Of course, Congratulations are due

because you just got married!

She's married yay!

(cheering)

so you wrote a book called,

- You Are a Prize to be Won, Ashley,

Don't Settle for Less Than God's Best.

- I'm not, I am not.

And that is something thatis so true to your life

and that's why I wantedto talk to you today

because I know you havesuch wisdom to share for all

of the single ladies andgentlemen out there as well.

But you, you also walked through a lot

of heartbreak before youmet your Prince charming

who is now your husband.

So briefly talk a little bit about that

and how you were ableto really get over that.

And maybe some advicefor those out there who

are still strugglingto get over a breakup.

- Yeah,

It is the hardest thing Iever went through, Ashley.

I'd had other relationshipsand other breakups

but this breakup, Godlet me feel everything.

You know, and I thought he wasgoing to ask me to marry him.

And at the end of a year,

cause girls, I think we, we plan

we think, okay, he's going topropose at the one year Mark.

And then, you know

I can start planning the weddingand you know, I've already

I'd already been shoppingfor honeymoon sites.

It was ridiculous.

So, and so at the end of one year,

he says, God says

I have to give you back.

And I'm like, I mean, I was just floored.

I mean, I didn't understandthat at the time.

And the pain that I went throughthough, was so surprising.

And I remember just month after month

of just this horrible pain in the pit

of my stomach and just like,is this ever gonna end?

What really saved me during this time

after the breakup was the word of God

but also the rhema words of God.

And I remember the Lordspeaking to me about six months

after the breakup,

this season will end.

I heard him say mourn andmove on, which I'm like, God

that's easier said than done.

You're like, God, thispain, it hurts so much.

You've got to tell me, did I mess up?

I probably went througha year of blaming myself.

I'd only said this or worn that

or done this or lookdifferent on that date.

No, he would have walked away.

She would've walked away.

But what I heard

during this painful timewas you didn't miss it

and it's not too late.

And now I'm going to bring you my best.

- I love that.

Thank you so much for sharing.

So with the unhooked campaign,we are encouraging people to

do a 40 day intimacy fast orAKA, just pressing the pause

button on dating to reallyjust focus on the Lord

and allow themselvesto be filled with God.

First and foremost, you hada large chunk of time where

you were single.

- Oh yeah, not dating at all.

- So let's talk about the wait,

because you said thatyou were an expert on

The waiting game.

- I can, I can write a bookon that, and I have it.

It is the hardest part.

I'm not gonna lie.

- How did you not lose hopein that season of waiting?

- You make a decisionthat I'm going to believe

the promises of God that, you know

I think it was Mary inthe Bible said, you know

I believe that it's going to happen

to me just the way the Lord said it would.

And, and no matter whatthe circumstances are

no matter how manypeople aren't calling you

no matter how many datesyou're not going on, you know

you still choose to believe.

And I decided early on

I was going to enjoy my singlelife as long as it lasted

because I knew my single life was a gift.

And, and you do get to spendmore time with the Lord.

And those times were really sweet.

And I, I would say to the Lord, God

you're not giving me a boyfriendor a husband right now.

So give me another mountain to climb.

- Yeah!

- So I really got into climbing,

and he did.

He gave me a Kilimanjaro,gave me Everest base camp.

He gave me Inca trail to Machu Picchu,

through Machu Picchu

I, I met Bill.

- Wow.

You are very adventurous.

And as you just said, you,

your singleness was agift and you had fun.

And I feel like a lot of people

in our culture today believethat because you are single,

you're not living afun, abundant, rich life

which is actually the complete opposite

of what God's word says.

So what would you say to someone

out there who believesthat their life is boring

because they're single?

- Well, it's really up to them.

I mean, you've got to make the decision.

I'm gonna pursue my passions

of I'm going to have fun.

I'm going to wear that red dress.

I'm going to go out with my girlfriends.

I'm going to celebrate, youknow, or your red high heels

whatever it is.- Yeah.

- Wear your red dress now.

Or maybe it's a green dress.

Maybe it's a black,

- Or it's a suit guys.

- Maybe it's a suit.- If it's a nice suit.

- Maybe it's that.

- During that waiting period of,

until you met your husband

was it hard to stay pure?

Cause that, that was aconviction that the Lord had put

on your heart,

to wait until marriage to have sex.

Was that hard for you?

- You know, in my twenties,before I came to the Lord

I was in the world and youknow, in every which way

and it was so empty and therewere so many heartbreaks

and I was so tired of that feeling

of not being valued that I said,

so in one way it wasn't hard.

When you meet the right one,

he was cool with it.

Now, if you meet somebody

and they're not cool with it,

they're not the right one,

but he was like, I'm on board.

You know, Bill waslike, okay, we can wait.

So you, you need to find that person

that understands yourconvictions are important to you.

Even if they don't understand them.

Of course, there weretimes where it was like

can't we just get married already.

Can we just go down tothe Justice of the Peace?

You know?

But it, it was worth the wait,

and I dedicated my book.

I said to, to my futurehusband, I know you'll

be worth the wait.

And that was all in faith.

And a couple of years wentby and I said, okay, Lord

I've dedicated this book.

You know, I really needyou to, and you know

God is so faithful.

Bill didn't come in the package

that I thought he was gonna come in.

In fact, it wasn't loveat first sight at all,

a friend fixed us up.

And, and I was like, he's nice.

And you know, maybe we'll runinto each other again someday

you know, but he pursued me.

Like I didn't really respond right away.

But when Bill sent me a nice text

or followed up with a phone,

even if I didn't text back, he followed up

with a phone call a couple of days later,

he really did it in the right way.

What happens to a woman's heart,

see, we're made to be pursued.

So when you pursue us,

our heart just sort of like slowly opens.

And then we startthinking, Oh, maybe, yeah

maybe I should go out with him again.

- The rest is history, as they say.

So,

what word of advice,

prayer, lasting word ofwisdom would you give

to single Christian men andwomen of your generation?

- Of my generation?

So like older Christians who'vebeen waiting a long time.

- Yeah.

- Don't give up, listen

good things can happen late in the game.

And I always believed it would happen.

I didn't think it would take this long

but now that it has happened,I love God's timing.

I've got 30 years ofbroadcasting behind me.

I've been on so many adventures.

So don't despise the season you're in,

love being single right now.

God says, delight yourself in me.

And I will give you thedesires of your hearts.

I would just say, enjoy the journey.

Don't rush it.

Trust God, stay pure

and enjoy being single.

- Yeah.

Wendy, thank you so much for being here

with us and sharing allthe wisdom and advice.

It's good stuff.

And I just continue to pray blessings

over your marriage and over you and Bill.

- Aw, thank you.

I receive it.

God bless you.

thanks Ashley, This was fun.- Thank you so much

thank you.

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