- Alex Bevere, thank youso much for being with us.

- Thank you, Ashley.

- Thanks for being apart of this campaign,

our latest campaign called,

"Unhooked: Holy in a Hookup World"

where we're just gettingto the nitty-gritty topic

of sex and dating andlove as a Christian single

in today's kinda crazy hookup culture.

You are the last single sonof John and Lisa Bevere.

- Wow, way to just point that out.

- I know.

How have you been able tostay pure and stay abstinent

when the world around usupholds the complete opposite?

- I really had to have a revelation

of what God thinks about me.

And I really had to havea revelation of who I am.

And you can only find thatwhenever you're within Christ.

I've been in a lot ofreally tough situations

that it could have been very easy for me

to take something to the next level.

So whenever you're in a situation

that's a difficult situation,

I would say you wanna make a statement.

You don't wanna ask a question.

What do I mean by that?

So if you're someone who struggles

with hooking up with someone,

if you're someone whostruggles with pornography

or lust or things like that,

and if you make a statementthat, "No, I don't do this,"

whenever you reach thatmoment of temptation

you're like, "I don't do this,"

it completely shuts off yourmind and it shuts off the enemy

from allowing to justify it.

- That's good. Awesome.

All right, so let's transition now

and talk about heartbreak and rejection.

- We're gonna transition that?

- We are transitioning to that.

- You wanna see me cry on camera?

- Yes, no just funning.

A lot of us have been there.

A lot of us have been rejected,

have gotten our hearts broken,

or have broken hearts.

What advice would you give someone

to taking the first stepand healing from heartbreak?

- I would just say first

to that person who's goingthrough the heartbreak

that the pain is somethingthat is very real.

I could just speak personally,just for me within my life,

I had this dream.

I was only gonna kiss one girl.

I made this vow before Ieven got into high school.

And I mean, I may go ondates with other girls,

I may hang out with them,

but I'm not even gonna kiss 'em.

Like, I'm gonna kiss the girl

that I know I'm gonna marry.

And I met this girl and I was like,

"I know I'm gonna marry this girl."

So then I kissed her, right?

And then it was way more than that

because we dated for awhile and I proposed to her.

It was all over social media.

It was everywhere.

My parents posted it.

They have like 2 millionfollowers between,

everyone saw it, right?

But then something happened

and it was a really hardand heartbreaking thing.

Basically. I had to end the relationship.

There is the feel of embarrassment.

There is the feel of pain.

There's the feel of a lossand it's a weird loss.

I mean, no one crieslike the brokenhearted.

One night after breakingoff the engagement,

no one was at my house, allmy family was out of town,

and I really needed comfort andI felt like I was all alone.

And I had just finished cooking dinner

and I just started to cry.

And I sat down on thefloor in the kitchen,

and I was crying, and Iwas going over my mind,

was like, "God, why didyou give me this dream

of only kissing one girl,

but now I know that's never gonna happen?

And why did you give me this dream

and why did all, why didn't you allow me

to fall in love with this person?"

And God gave me thisimage, 'cause I chose.

I'm not gonna put this blame on God.

And God gave me this image instantly.

And as I was on the kitchen floor crying,

I saw right next to me,

that Jesus was sitting right next to me,

and he was balling.

He was bawling his eyes out.

And we forget that God, hecame and he understands pain.

He came and he felt painand he was on that cross

and he took our pain so thathe could understand our pain.

Whenever we have pain, we canconnect with other people.

And your pain, what youneed to realize is your pain

actually opens up the doorfor you to heal others.

- Wow. Amen.

Thank you so much for sharing

and opening up about that, seriously.

Do you think we can truly be a holy people

in a hookup world?

- If you wanna be holy in hookup world

you need to watch your situations,

but I can speak from experience

that I've been very careful

trying not to be in bad situations,

but things still happen.

And how do we counteracttemptation and these moments.

And that is knowing who you are in Christ.

That, if you can hearthe sound of my voice,

that you are a son and daughter of God.

That the Book of Romans has this scripture

and it says, "The whole universe waits

with an anticipation forthe sons and daughters

of God to reveal themselves."

That we have to remember

that our God is someone whosethoughts for you in particular

have outnumbered the grainsof sand on this planet.

That he is someone that loves you

and you're called to a higher way.

And that you make that statementthat I am a child of God.

That this is somethingthat I do not do that.

That it might've beensomething that was the old you,

but you've been calledto a new, higher calling.

You've been called to a different you.

And so I'd say, "Rememberwho you are in Christ.

Get into God's Word if you forget."

- I know so many people,so many guys and girls

are truly just gonna be touched

by the wisdom and knowledgethat you've shared with us.

(gentle music)- Absolutely.

It was just an honor being here.

Seriously, it was.

- Thanks so much.

- Yeah. Thank you guys.