Have a Little Fun with Your Spouse!

First, talk about play with your mate.

Don’t let play take a back seat to other activities in your home. Talk to your mate about how you will weave play into your lives. Then do it. Play.
   
Second, share ideas for play dates with each other.

As you sit and talk, remember the ways you had fun earlier in your relationship. Remember back to the times you enjoyed yourselves. Brainstorm ways you can take an hour or two, or an occasional weekend, for yourselves.  
   
Third, turn off cell phones and attend to each other. 

Again, whether this is for an hour, two hours or a weekend, give full attention to each other. Uninterrupted attention is pure gold and pure good for a marriage.
   
Fourth, celebrate each other.

Offer words of encouragement to each other. Take notice of something about your mate that you can positively affirm. Notice her smile when you compliment her on her hair, clothes or smile. Notice him beam when you remark about how playful he can be. Bring the joy back into your marriage one comment at a time.

Finally, Keep it going.

Let play become a natural habit. Weave it into your life’s routines so the kids know mom and dad will have an occasional night out. Keep that babysitter on retainer, so she knows you will need her services again in the future. Find the ‘off’ button to that cell phone and pay attention to each other.
 
Would you like more information on how to improve your relationships?  Dr. Hawkins and his team are available to work with you via Phone, Skype or intensive counseling for you and/or your marriage. Please go to our website, www.marriagerecoverycenter.com and discover more information about this as well as the free downloadable eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams, including other free videos and articles.  Send responses to me at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com and also read more about The Marriage Recovery Center on our website.